Hi Erica, You have no idea what a relief you gave me, a smile on my face, and tears in my eyes, thanks for answering me. My coworker issue...I went to work, I saw him, he opened the door for me and waited for me to hug him to say hi. I was trying to not look him in his eyes, I think he felt that and he was shy too, he tried to talk but it was like we both are escaping and avoiding any talks. I caught him many times looking at me again, and I barely kept myself to not show anything. I avoided even looking at him cause I was embarrassed enough and felt rejected. I can’t find the reason why he holds back and if he is not interested why he keeps our communication the way, which makes me and also everyone else think there is something between us. :( I wish I could be brave enough and take the risk and say it out that I like him that's why I have been acting weird...but I am afraid and we all know what we are afraid of and it is being ignored and rejected...please I hope you will answer my comment I would appreciate that.

Thank you so much for your feedback, I’m glad I was able to help in a small way. Happy to have you back! Like I talked about before, someone has to be the risk taker. I think that most things worth having involve some type of risk in the process. It would help if he would meet you half way and not be so avoidant BUT this is what we are working with. You already proved that you could be brave and say something. At the same time it sounds like you both freeze up and get nervous. Something that can help with nerves is to practice and prepare. I know it sounds sort of weird but it can help. When you are alone, you can practice talking in the mirror or practice what you want to say to him. The more you prepare and figure out what you want to say and actually practice doing this, the easier it could be when you actually approach him. Maybe you could try saying, Hi and then asking if you could talk. Could you meet on a lunch break or have a chat after work in the parking lot? Another thing you can do is think of a question to ask him so that you don’t feel so pressured to have to say everything and carry the conversation. Now all of this is with the intention of owning what happened when you blurted out a little bit about how you feel. Now the other thing you could do is simply ask him if he would like to have lunch with you…that’s a start and you could just have casual conversation with no intent or expectation on your part to bring up what you said before. I will say though, that I think that situation will linger in your mind and possibly his until it is addressed. All you can do is try and see what happens. No one LIKES to be rejected but I’m sure you don’t like what is going on now either. It sounds pretty awkward and uncomfortable. My advice would be to consider my first response to you and weigh the pros and cons of your options. Like I said before, we all get embarrassed sometimes, but it can be easier on you when you own it instead of avoiding it. We all are rejected at some point in some way. It doesn’t feel good at all but there is always something to learn and gain.  Good luck!

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