Hi, I know this is probably random. I’m really close to my aunt and we talk a lot especially her confiding in me. But at the same time there's boundaries because of course she's way older than I am. I help her with Online apps and things of that nature that asks for personal information. Recently she made a comment saying "you hang around me too much". Being me I was like oh I'm sorry. But we both laughed it off with a hug. I don't know if I'm being paranoid but is that something I should take personally or if it's something I should take note of and try not to be in her space so often. Ps: we see each other everyday because we live together and I'm Haitian so I guess culture does play a role in the boundary aspect. Thank you so much. Love what you are doing by the way. I aspire to be like you one day, you do great work I once saw a video of you on your friends YouTube channel Ifyyvonne

I love that you and your aunt have such a special relationship. It’s nice to have connections with those that are older to provide us with wisdom along the way. I’m not sure what your aunt may have meant by her comment. Maybe she thinks you are beginning to act like her by hanging around her too much. Maybe she didn’t mean anything by it. The only way to know is to talk with her about it. You are entitled to your feelings and if something bothers you, you have the option to communicate it. It doesn't have to be a long drawn out deep talk and it doesn't have to be an argument. It can be as simple as telling your aunt that you were thinking about her comment and want to know if that is what she truly thinks or feels. You can go on to tell her your reaction to what she said. You and your aunt seem to be pretty close so I am taking a leap here but I think she will be receptive to what you have to say in a loving way. Thank you for writing me and for your kind words! Your words truly touched me :) 

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